Do you feel alone in your relationship?
Are you frequently hurt, frustrated, or angry with your partner or spouse and do your attempts to talk about it only make it worse between the two of you?
Have miscommunication and shifting priorities led to increased stress and conflict with your partner?
It can feel painful and isolating when you are in a disconnected relationship or marriage. When the honeymoon period of your relationship ends, the dynamic and communication can change. Constant arguments can make you feel like your needs and opinions are not being heard or understood. Regular conflict or miscommunication might also lead you or your partner to shut down, refusing to talk about the issues weighing down your relationship. Over time you may begin to feel like a stranger in your own family as you struggle to reestablish the emotional connection with your spouse.
Most Couples Face Conflict at Some Point
Almost every couple is going to deal with challenges in their relationship – it’s unavoidable. No one goes through life without experiencing change, loss or times of unhappiness. These moments – such as health concerns, the death of a parent, your children leaving home, financial stress – can impact one individual’s emotions or behavior, triggering a change in the relationship. Individual stress, anxiety, depression and addiction can lead to lapses in communication or persistent arguing.
Many couples facing difficulty avoid discussing their concerns with one another. Infidelity or a lack of sexual desire can create a rift in trust and communication, often leaving you feeling like you are living with a friend or roommate instead of an intimate partner. Over time, one or both individuals may let other areas of their lives take over until they grow bigger than their commitment to keeping their marriage happy and healthy. In some cases, the distance created when one partner feels neglected can be enough to lead to divorce.
The good news, however, is that with the help of a compassionate, experienced couple’s therapist you can get back to feeling connected, satisfied and heard in your relationship.
In our sessions, we’ll address each individual’s needs, worries and wishes. When you work with a therapist who truly understands and balances your needs with that of your partner, it becomes easier to identify and work through the root causes behind your relationship struggles. I use a research based approach called Emotionally Focused Therapy. With this approach I help couples free themselves from negative patterns, resolve relationship injuries and build healthy connections that lead to greater trust and happiness.
I believe that people have the capacity to change and that lasting change is possible. When you learn to listen to your partner – to talk about your needs and desires instead of your day at the office – you can develop a deeper, more flexible love and connection.
Even if you feel disconnected from your partner right now, with the help of a supportive and experienced therapist, it is possible to feel heard, understood and cared about again. You and your partner can develop new perspectives about your relationship and learn new tools that can help you identify, address and heal from the problems in your relationship.
In addition to traditional weekly sessions, I also offer a Couple’s Relationship Intensive.
This Intensive package is designed to enable you to gain a deeper understanding of your dynamics as a couple, as well as valuable insight into where and why you are getting stuck. The Package includes three 90 minute couple’s sessions as well as access to the Gottman Relationship Checkup, an online assessment tool that automatically captures your strengths and challenges and provides specific recommendations for the most successful interventions.
The cost of the intensive is $675, please call today for details.